4 Lessons on Alone Time in Marriage
Marriage is about sharing your life with the one you love. But for a marriage to be healthy, you need to remember that you are still two unique individuals who have come together, and are not one person. Karaz’s Yasmin discusses the importance of having, and respecting alone time—and 4 lessons you can learn from it for a better, healthier marriage.
Everyone needs a little “me” time. This shouldn’t be insulting to your partner, and you should respect the need if your spouse says it’s important to them. Everyone needs a little space to be alone with their thoughts, or just do something for themselves once in a while. It is not a reflection on your partner. And while you can show gratitude for your partner wanting to do everything with you or vice versa, you both need to respect the importance of doing things on your own.
Here are 4 Lessons on the Importance of Alone Time
Really knowing yourself, and being OK with who you are—and more than that, loving yourself…is the #1 pre-requisite to being in a happy and successful relationship. You need to be comfortable in your own skin, know what you like and what you don’t, and love yourself so that other’s may love you.
Privacy and Space
Everyone needs to have some alone time and some space. Happy couples all over the world report the need to be alone as a “universal truth”. So don’t take it personally. Understanding that it is not a reflection on your spouse, and that it is a healthy way to deal and balance out—will allow you to not only respect your own need for this time, but also your spouses. This in turn builds trust, and love.
Alone is not Lonely
“Alone” is not a bad thing. In fact, if you don’t realize that you need to be alone once in a while, and if you don’t know how to be alone—this can hurt your relationships. You need to learn to be alone.
Suffocate Me NOT
When you don’t give your spouse their space, they start to feel suffocated. And the more you feel like you need to cling on and be closer if you feel them drifting away a bit, the farther they will run from you. So let them have their own thoughts, feelings, time…and trust that it will be better for the marriage long term.
It might be hard to feel like you have to let go. But this isn’t so much as letting go, rather than letting one breathe. Talk to your partner about it. Tell them what you need and ask them what they need. Open communication can clarify misunderstandings, and honest feedback will allow you to help each other, and the marriage as well. What are your thoughts on the matter?