Controlling Your Sexual Desire- An Islamic Perspective
They say there’s a famous Islamic traditional teaching about sexual pleasure that says that when God created desire, He made it into ten parts. He gave nine parts to women, and just one to men. It’s no wonder that we all feel intense sexual desires at time. But since pre-marital sex is forbidden, Karaz’s Mira has collected a suggestion of ways to deal with sexual desire that will ease the discomfort and hopefully turn it into good deeds of patience instead.
1. Fasting is a great way to learn self-control. It teaches discipline that is necessary in learning how to deal with desire and controlling urges that may lead to something you might regret. It is a way to build your character.
2. Voluntary worship, such as Sunnah prayers, or making lots of supplications is a perfect opportunity to ask Allah to guide you, protect you and keep you safe. It will garner that extra protection and strength you need to fight against desire.
3. Fill your time up with education. You can either do this by reading the Quran, using the translation if you don’t know Arabic, or reading other thing that will fill your time up with educational knowledge or skills to distract you.
4. Be social. Surround yourself with friends and family that can support you, by keeping you positive and distracted by the company of others in a non-sexual setting. Avoiding being alone can help put a stop to distracting and overwhelming thoughts of desire.
5. Avoid turn-ons. If you know that something will turn you on, whether it be a movie, music, specific magazines…whatever it may be, avoid it. Keep sexual stimulation out of your sight, and thus, out of your mind.
It’s not wrong to have such thoughts or feel these feelings. It is natural. But being aware of yourself and your body, will help you control the overpowering desire to turn thoughts into actions that you would rather not be involved in.
God bless, and may He keep you steadfast.