Enhancing Father-Child Relationships: Islamic Perspective
Dad’s don’t always get to spend as much time with their children the way mother’s do. But having a father figure, and having a good relationship between the children and their father is so important. For their confidence, their well being, their future. Karaz’s Yousef lists some tips with an Islamic perspective to improving father-child relationships.
A father showing their child how much they love them, is better than anything else he can do. It’s more important than money. The Prophet (PBUH), when his daughter Fatima would come to him, would stand up, kiss her, take her hand, and give her his seat. There is wisdom in that; one that all fathers should learn and apply.
Here are some ways to better the relationships between children, and their fathers:
- Read them a story before bed time.
- Make up stories together, with characters that have values you want to teach.
- Play with your children. Be silly. Let go and laugh.
- Let them help you with tasks.
- Take the family on picnics and monthly outdoor trips.
- Help them with their homework.
- Talk to them…not at them. Ask them what’s wrong. Be willing to listen and not yell. Show them they can come to you with anything.
- Eat together as a family.
- Joke and sing with them.
- Give them baths. Tuck them into bed.
- Pray with them. Take them to a masjid. Teach them about religion.
- Treat them with respect, as people. No matter how old they are.
You really only have one chance to make an impression with your children before they grown up. This is when you can build a solid foundation, a level of trust, and teach them the morals and values you want them to have as adults. Father’s have a greater role in the lives of their children than they might anticipate. Children need their fathers, not only for security money-wise, but really, for emotional security as well. Take the time, make it quality time, and take advantage of the moments you have now, before they’re all grown up.