Fasting and Good Manners
It is the time of the year again, when the evils are casted out and locked away. It is the time for repentance and seeking forgiveness from ALLAH ALL MIGHTY. Ramadan is the month above all the other months wherein one has to fight with not the sheytaan but his/her own Nafs which can be...
It is the time of the year again, when the evils are casted out and locked away. It is the time for repentance and seeking forgiveness from ALLAH ALL MIGHTY. Ramadan is the month above all the other months wherein one has to fight with not the sheytaan but his/her own Nafs which can be roughly translated to mean self, psyche ego or soul.
We are taught to be patient in our conduct, stay away from misdeeds throughout our lives and especially more so in Ramadan, yet we see people doing bad deeds and we ourselves are not being able to control our good conduct. So what causes this behavior to devour us, it is our Nafs which prompts us to do bad deeds when the sheytaan and his associates are banished for the whole month of Ramadan.
This is indeed a test of where either we win or get defeated from our Nafs, if we win we would be able to control it then let it control us, if we are defeated then our behavior will show our loose temperament.
Fasting takes a toll on us both physically, mentally and spiritually. Thus it is very important to take care of ourselves in regards of our physical, mental and spiritual health. How can we do so, it is imperative that we realize that fasting is for ALLAH alone and not for anyone else. Hence it is often that that the hunger drives us in rage and we tend to step outside of our ethical boundaries during fast, not only that behavior is highly unacceptable in fasting but it is the same whether we are fasting or not.
Following the Sunnah of our beloved Prophet Muhammad ﷺ we can make sure that we keep a check on ourselves while fasting.
Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) narrated that the Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “Whoever does not give up forged speech and evil actions, Allah is not in need of his (fasting) leaving his food and drink.” [Sahih Al Bukhari (1770)]
The tradition above makes acknowledge that ALLAH does not need our fast, but it is actually us who need to get closer to ALLAH by fasting. If we can open up to the facts that our life is mortal and we would eventually all wither away in the dust, we would be vigilant in each and every action we do. Being rude, abusive, enraged and lazy are not the traits of a true believer. Sometimes either we are too hungry which makes us rude and other times we fill up ourselves too much that we become lazy. The key to successfully observe our fasts is to be moderate.
The adornment of the fasting person is: Patience, forbearance, forgiving, generosity, benevolence, goodness, piety, clarity, transparency, soundness of the heart, sweetness of the tongue, hastening to good deeds, and cooperation for goodness and piety, among other good manners which a fasting person seeks to reach the highest degrees.