Finding “The One” in Me

You know how people keep saying that you attract things in life depending on who you are on the inside? I never really gave that much thought until I started realizing through experience, that the type of people I was attracting weren’t exactly what I needed. Maybe they were negative, or really blunt…or maybe it was that they weren’t up to my expectations—especially when trying to find “The One”.

Then I stopped for a moment and it occurred to me… wait, why would I expect someone to come into my life that was amazing at certain things I wasn’t bothered to invest in myself? Why would I want a chef, when I can’t even make a proper meal? Why do I expect an artist at heart, when I neglect my own creativity? Why do I expect him to be so organized, when my desk is a mess?

I realized that in order to attract the person you want, you have to mirror those characteristics. I was certainly attracting the types of guys that were mirroring my bad habits at the time…and it didn’t work out. But it isn’t really fair to blame it on their flaws when I’m ignoring my own.

So I decided to make a change. If I want someone creative, I have to be creative. If I want someone organized, I have got to clean up my act. If I wanted someone who was good with money, I needed to start keeping track of my pennies.  

In a way, what makes The Secret so popular is the law of attraction—which I’m now really starting to believe in. You find people in your life that mirror you—whether that’s in your external lifestyle or maybe even your emotional state.

So it really boils down to being the type of person you want in your life. It really all does start with you. Instead of focusing on others, you have to start focusing on yourself. Worst-case scenario? You become awesome, with a much fuller life. Depending on your own self for happiness—and that’s a great place to be.

This article expresses the opinion of the writer and do not necessarily reflect the opinion of Karaz