Long Distance Love: 10 Tips to Making it Work
Karaz’s Shahrazad has put together a list of ten tips for long-distance lovers to use for both their attitudes and lifestyles that will defy the obstacles that come with being miles and miles apart.
Define the relationship and what you want from the get-go. Is either party willing to relocate if it gets to that point? Are you in it for the long haul? Make plans and goals together that you can work towards, even if you are apart.
Tip 2—Video Chatting
Seeing someone’s facial expressions when they’re expressing their anger or telling you a funny story can do wonders. A lot of times, tone and meaning gets lost in writing. So make sure you make video chatting a staple of your relationship and see each other at least once a day.
Tip 3—Do Things Together
Just because you’re apart doesn’t mean you can’t do things together. Watch movies online together, or series, a book review, or play a game… whatever you might be into. Defy the boundaries by sharing an activity together at least once a week.
Tip 4—Communicate Often
Long distance relationships don’t work if you don’t speak often. Other than video chatting once a day, keep in touch via messages or phone calls. It’s important to let your partner in on what’s going on in your life and what you’re doing. Just remember not to be controlling.
Tip 5—Respect Independent Lives
Also remember that, while you are in a relationship, because you live apart you have your own lives. You are more likely to have time to see friends and family seeing as your loved one is not in town. Be respectful of your partner’s life and friends, and don’t let jealousy turn the relationship into a control-game.
Tip 6—Meet the Friends/Family Online
To feel better and more comfortable with each other’s independent lives, meet your partners friends and family online if need be. Meeting the people your partner talks about and developing relationships with them will create an increase sense of trust and ease.
Tip 7—Verbalize Your Thoughts
Being apart means not knowing exactly what happened during the day. Let your partner know if you’re upset or angry, or if something happened that bothered you. Not providing that information will lead the other person to possibly internalize it and start doubting the relationship.
Tip 8—Make A Plan
Being spontaneous is great but when it comes to long-distance love, a little planning is needed. Figure out when you’re going to see each other, and plan ahead so that the prospect of being apart becomes more bearable.
Tip 9—Start Collecting Air Miles
Visit your partner as often as you can. If you live close enough, then try to do it at least ever 4-6 weeks.
Tip 10—Focus on the Silver Lining
Long distance love is hard. Being mostly negative and complaining will bring negative energy into the relationship and make the process of making it work even harder. So focus on the good things, and take it one step at a time.